You can not make anything happen. You can only create appropriate conditions to help the growth. You can only give your best. You do this, and that, and that, and then repeat ‘this’ – just to be sure.
But things often don’t work out even after that. It is then that you plant a new seed, build up a new model, find a new person, and what not.
Giving your best gives you confidence. Accepting things gives you wisdom. Moving on gives you courage. Blaming, lamenting, and clinging steals away all of them.